tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19069279287737662392024-03-12T17:00:48.927-07:00It's MY LIFEadventures in building a family and living authenticallyKristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.comBlogger518125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-36977123563027410962023-01-15T22:17:00.001-08:002023-01-15T22:33:03.815-08:00 New Community<p>We moved at the end of November! and are still settling in and unpacking a bit, but at least things are functional. We bought a huge new couch that dominates the living room. š Itās very comfortable, though, and we are enjoying it, as well as the third bedroom and nicer, more open, floor plan. Iāve started taking walks along the river with Ellie, and becoming more familiar with our new surroundings. I only miss the old neighborhood once in a while, when I think of all the memories walking with Ellie and the beautiful homes and landscapes. Itās a different beauty along the river. </p><p>Holidays were okay but a lot to deal with so quickly after our move. We managed to buy and decorate a little tree, and I made a few handmade painted popsicle stick picture frames with Ellie and gave them out to a few of our new neighbors with cute pics of Ellie in them. I was proud of myself for completing that project, as it had several artsy/crafty steps to it! </p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWrewrYOIp9FVghD4QmwAUu9cRolnVwdGbvfJ0QnemltIG4p__dAn-L0sSSLSVuDC4D6BK9iBdRiEWRk5Yp6z1XkJmdXGNFOGS2GogGnYlnTIuARIpmdyXac3XPKXaBeMKEriSBOB0t6u4BQsaSnf-hbUlquRvI8rCwlN2ZXHzXCMGxVR6zsk9d54/s4032/5D840C4C-942F-4183-BEE6-37A1CEBCF9D4.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWrewrYOIp9FVghD4QmwAUu9cRolnVwdGbvfJ0QnemltIG4p__dAn-L0sSSLSVuDC4D6BK9iBdRiEWRk5Yp6z1XkJmdXGNFOGS2GogGnYlnTIuARIpmdyXac3XPKXaBeMKEriSBOB0t6u4BQsaSnf-hbUlquRvI8rCwlN2ZXHzXCMGxVR6zsk9d54/w240-h320/5D840C4C-942F-4183-BEE6-37A1CEBCF9D4.jpeg" width="240" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Ellie in her new Wizard costume on Christmas.</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEDD8eNDu84VVUtzhpdTrVP9IEBM8rLN3ofoM3Fy91Ui2OHHw1SQpjlCVF_5SeWTBdC_BPZGRERp4KPHQid__Oi3Xj1y3hIHmqCeVKB9IWRCY_CpU-WdjVpbxiaodTNjwaDApMbxpBoxxlMXHz_d3vQEexEz7QEgMG0M4LVm0V1oLTP7_q4Oj-gKU/s4032/4F18C635-ADFC-49C2-B637-B70D4947CFDA.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEDD8eNDu84VVUtzhpdTrVP9IEBM8rLN3ofoM3Fy91Ui2OHHw1SQpjlCVF_5SeWTBdC_BPZGRERp4KPHQid__Oi3Xj1y3hIHmqCeVKB9IWRCY_CpU-WdjVpbxiaodTNjwaDApMbxpBoxxlMXHz_d3vQEexEz7QEgMG0M4LVm0V1oLTP7_q4Oj-gKU/s320/4F18C635-ADFC-49C2-B637-B70D4947CFDA.jpeg" width="240" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Ellie on one of our rainy river walks.</td></tr></tbody></table><p>Christmas Eve at my brothers house was fun, but RC had to work, so he didnāt get to come. Yummy food and unusually nice conversation with family. My sisterās house the next morning was okay until the point where all the adult women except me received jewelry from my father. Itās happened in years past, too, and feels like such and obvious, purposeful exclusion. I told RC that Iām not going to sit through that again, as it really hurts my feelings and triggers old feelings of not being good enough. If/when it happens, Iāll get up and make myself busy in another room. Living in community with lots of conscious, generally open-hearted people really creates a contrast with the culture in my family gatherings. </p><p>We are still adjusting and building family and community routines in our new place, but itās been great to eat community meals together a couple of times a week and have people step forward who enjoy playing with Ellie during gatherings - and who have even provided childcare a few times while I attended a more adult check-in group. I love seeing how comfortable Ellie feels with our neighbors, and she runs around talking to people and insists on saying goodbye to everyone individually- so cute! š„° Definitely a big part of my vision coming true. </p><p>Iāve had my social insecurity come up at times, but not too bad, and Iām feeling gradually more secure, especially as we have a couple deeper focused groups starting up, like the check-in group and a new Brene Brown Art Journal group. I can tell RC is starting to feel more at home, as well, and Iām excited that a menās group will be starting soon. He used to attend one in California and got a lot out of it. Oh, and a young couple in the community just had a new baby girl! An adorable future friend and playmate for Ellie, in addition to the 5-year-old girl who is also a neighbor. </p><p>I havenāt had much bandwidth to write, but I wanted to share an update as a lot is happening and time is rolling by. I have an interview Tuesday, which Iāll share more about later, but I have mixed feeling about it; both excited and a little worried at taking focus off my business again (at least for now) and working more hours. Our family could really benefit from a higher, and more consistent, income though, and I think Iād enjoy it. Iām thinking maybe I could still see clients on the side and come back to the business down the road, too. We will see. </p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-51926076308493653132022-10-16T23:59:00.001-07:002022-10-23T11:17:29.684-07:00I love my girl<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0cXfEizvsYX_a43cwSFuA6AM_OfV5jQ8Civan0sE-YzfFtYLB0eOM1VYdRivucQ7sZaNiGPYwE7q9eqA3joSC2qU2ko7N6y6npp30tFVve6EVXE1-C2DSXeuxkPRTpWK_r79PXFNxWQ3TqLkvXHCZ03qVwOUN2b65b2Uw8nMU_IdN28MXgGsTTwc/s4032/FEFF5105-D77C-4778-A8CD-78F98E7AFE3C.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0cXfEizvsYX_a43cwSFuA6AM_OfV5jQ8Civan0sE-YzfFtYLB0eOM1VYdRivucQ7sZaNiGPYwE7q9eqA3joSC2qU2ko7N6y6npp30tFVve6EVXE1-C2DSXeuxkPRTpWK_r79PXFNxWQ3TqLkvXHCZ03qVwOUN2b65b2Uw8nMU_IdN28MXgGsTTwc/s320/FEFF5105-D77C-4778-A8CD-78F98E7AFE3C.jpeg" width="240" /></a></div><br />I love Ellie sooo much. I was just really feeling that today, and lately in general. It can definitely be hard to parent a 3-year-old (canāt believe sheās three now!) with all the strong opinions and fussing when you donāt get what you want, but sheās able to have conversations now, and I enjoy having special Mommy and Ellie time. <p></p><p>I also feel joy making things fun and exciting for her, like getting donuts this morning or going to the park after school. She likes thinking about next dayās plans, and she has a very good memory, so donāt try to change them! :) </p><p>I talk to her about a variety of things, and she listens and understands so much now. Weāve been talking about our upcoming move and getting excited about that (but also knowing we have to pack). </p><p>Then yesterday I read her a simple book talking about how she was conceived with a donor egg. Iād been feeling now was the time to share a little about it, and I feel good that I did. She didnāt seem phased at all and was more into the parts where Daddy and I met and how excited we were when she was born. But the door has been opened, and I feel positive about that. </p><p>I love you sooo much, Ellie! XOXO</p><p></p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-60930822178869452302022-09-17T00:59:00.003-07:002022-09-19T08:24:24.374-07:00Cohousing is happening!<p>After some uncertainty as to whether we could manage the loan and resulting loan payment, especially from RC, we are now on the same page and working through the many final steps and decisions to move in to our Cohousing unit! Iāll share about a few of these belowā¦</p><p>First of all, which unit will we choose? We were going to be in a one level, slightly smaller unit for some time, then moved (on the unit map, not in real life) to a two-story unit with the office and Ellieās bedroom upstairs, and the kitchen, living room, washer/dryer, and a very small master bedroom downstairs. Then the price was recently reduced on our previous c-unit, so we are considering moving back. </p><p>But, RC just got a promotion! And I really think I would miss not having the upstairs to retreat to or hang out in when I needed a change of scenery or energy reset. It just feels mor expansive and lighter upstairs and allows more separation between activities. Does this make sense? </p><p>The other, now less expensive unit has a wonderful, large outdoor deck, though, and a slightly larger backyard. I wish we could have the outside of that unit and the inside of the other one. š </p><p>There is a site tour tomorrow, and Iām going to do some measuring and then weāll decide! Iām leaning toward the D but am willing to sacrifice and go with the other one if RC thinks it would be prudent. I feel lucky to be buying into the community period, and Iām grateful heās come around to commit to it </p><p>Then we will continue working on our loan. Weāve gotten most of our ducks in a row, but closing costs are more expensive than weād remembered, and we are really hoping interest rates go down a little in October. š¤š¼</p><p>Additionally, we have seemingly dozens of things we need to decide on and purchase with others in the community. Finishes/items that for whatever reason were not included in the construction plans. In actuality, there are just a few we want/need (washer/dryer, blinds, ceiling fans, microwave, ?), but coordinating these decisions feels like a lot right now. </p><p>But I have to say that itās also super exciting. Iāve dreamed of living in Cohousing for a looong time, and Ellie is really getting to know and grow attached to our āneighbors.ā Sheās adored and gets quite a bit of attention, which is so nice! When we go to see the unit, she is thrilled to go into her room, and she throws herself down on the floor and looks so comfortable and at home. Her experience of home and neighbors/loved ones is (hopefully) going to be so different than mine </p><p>Iāll share more soon about unit choice; please send good thoughts. Move-on is scheduled for November 7th! Happy almost fall! </p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-42976224096820406062022-05-13T16:55:00.002-07:002022-05-13T16:58:55.149-07:00A Rainy Spring <p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQazn3VwLdZ_J3RY41H_Ouj8cOnFztWuc6Enl5etcqia8df1EarOm__8AkIjK7iGxtgnJxh_dnHi8H4RXl7Hhd0iy0XvKK0FEEH7jbC5qJqLGLA-gvYcVccsMBHzn25hzNVspXrzMeEDoa_z84-a2JysZorxXLMMvx-Eg77GwKCi3YyyMTHmLg6bM/s4032/6D41A746-76DB-401F-A2F9-045F0B2E1CF7.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQazn3VwLdZ_J3RY41H_Ouj8cOnFztWuc6Enl5etcqia8df1EarOm__8AkIjK7iGxtgnJxh_dnHi8H4RXl7Hhd0iy0XvKK0FEEH7jbC5qJqLGLA-gvYcVccsMBHzn25hzNVspXrzMeEDoa_z84-a2JysZorxXLMMvx-Eg77GwKCi3YyyMTHmLg6bM/s320/6D41A746-76DB-401F-A2F9-045F0B2E1CF7.jpeg" width="240" /></a></div>Iām sitting here looking outside at the downpour. Lots of rain in our area of the NW lately. It definitely cramps our style, as it limits our neighborhood walks and family park visits. We are still trying to get out as much as possible, whenever the clouds part. <p></p><p>So happy to report that Ellie is loving her part-time preschool! Sheās always excited to go and likes running around, circle time, and reading - at least thatās all I can get out of her so far in terms of activities. :) She naps for an hour or hour-and-a-half usually (half the time she naps at home), but at least she is managing to sleep, which I was a little worried about. She talked about a friend she was playing with for the first time yesterday, and she brought home her first ever birthday party invitation. š„°</p><p>Other recent Ellie developments: she LOVES listening to āIslands in the Stream,ā knows all the words, and asks us to play it as soon as we get in the car. Itās adorable! Itās also hilarious hearing a toddler sing, āā¦makinā love with each other, uh uh,ā and have no idea what it means. She helps daddy make his protein shakes and oatmeal, and those are a couple of their special times. Daddy will also read to her endlessly, book after book after book. </p><p>She really does love reading and songs, and I think/hope that has helped her. It was nice to hear her teacher say that she had a big vocabulary. She sure does talk a lot right now, and continues to like to describe things in increasing detail, and also report back what happened after the fact. She just recently said she was ādisappointedā that her stuffie fell down - after chastising him for falling down. lol She shows more and more independence but still likes to be Mamaās baby sometimes, thank goodness.</p><p>We all got colds here over the last few weeks; first Ellie, then me, then R. She had to stay home from preschool a few days, and itās amazing how quickly a big life change (going to preschool) can become the norm. It felt like she was so cooped up and life was so limited. At least R was able to watch her half day Tuesday and all day Thursday, so I was could keep up with most of my work and meetings with clients.</p><p>Speaking of work, and continuing the theme of rain, Iām taking a 10-week, Wednesday morning class called, āRainmaker,ā which is focused on digital marketing (and making šµš°šµš°) for entrepreneurs. Iām learning a lot about targeting clients, social media, how to get free marketing (Iāve contributed content to two media pieces so far, which will backlink to my website), and email campaigns. Several more weeks to go. </p><p>The challenge will be following through and implementing more strategies, and continuing to implement them over time. Iām excited to report, though, that I doubled my client load last month!</p><p>I do love where I work at the Coworking space, and Iāve never felt as excited to go to work as I do right now I genuinely look forward to the next day when I know I will be working. Itās so nice to focus and use my brain and talents, but Iām grateful I had the time and was able to wait for a couple years before Ellie went to daycare/preschool. Hoping I can keep it up to help us make our mortgage payments come November. </p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-32158435406682582322022-03-08T21:29:00.003-08:002022-03-08T21:29:30.525-08:00Winter Lament<p>Popping in to let you all know (youāre welcome :-)) that we have been dealing with a little girlās constipation over here for almost two weeks, and I am so ready to be done with it. We have a doctorās appointment tomorrow with the head of the practice, so I hope she has some really effective advice for us. I thought at first it might be a lingering side effect of a 24-hour virus she had, but seems beyond that now. </p><p>We started yesterday with small doses of miralax and have been giving juice and pears and veggies. Itās helping a little, maybe, but sheās still struggling. Lots of, āPick me up, Mommy!ā Said in a pitiful tone. š¢ Sad and exhausting. </p><p>I admit that we have not been working as hard as we should be to get her to eat veggies. She often eats one fruit/veggie pouch every day or two and eats lots of fruit. She doesnāt like most veggies but will eat bites when we feed them to her of zucchini, carrots, and asparagus. Tonight I tried chopping broccoli up in really small pieces and sautĆ©ing it in butter, and she ate three bites of that, which I count as a win. </p><p>Any tips or recipes toddlers will eat with veggies hidden in them? Is constipation a developmental thing most kids go through? </p><p>A few other updates, since Iām here and havenāt posted in quite a whileā¦</p><p>Winter is dragging on now in the NW and getting really old - move on buddy, youāve overstayed your welcome. I wore a summer dress the other day to try and nudge the weather. ha</p><p>Ellie is going to start preschool in about a month!! We are excited, and I know she is ready for more variety and time with other kids. It will only be part-time so not too hard of a separation. </p><p>Our cohousing project is well underway, and they said we might even be able to move-in early. We will see. Right now, still planning on end of October/beginning of November. Iāve been spending time on committee work, and weāve sold the last two units (one to family with a 16-year-old). </p><p>At some point Ellie full-on entered toddlerville, and, though I wouldnāt call them terrible, I do now understand where the term āterrible twosā came from. Lots of strong emotions and expressing wants and needs all the time. āI donāt!!ā Is something we hear regularly, meaning I donāt want to do whatever you just asked me to do. </p><p>But she has also become so actively loving and affectionate, and she says, āI love you,ā all the time, in the sweetest way. ā¤ļø She loves to help, and we really need to get one of those kitchen towers so she can safely stand and help us in the kitchen. </p><p>Signing off for now to watch some tv and shut off my mind for a while. Sad and worried about Ukraine, as Iām sure you all are. Sending prayers. </p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-43790905520146061452022-01-23T00:16:00.006-08:002022-01-25T22:13:35.100-08:00Juggling many things<p>This month has been pretty busy and intense for us; you, too? Letās see, whatās been going on:</p><p>Filling the last units in our cohousing community, after making a big push to recruit and encourage families. Final decisions end of February. </p><p>Actively involved on several community teams, including membership, community agreements, and Covid, as well as mentoring two Explorers. Hereās a picture of construction progressā¦</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh9KN-6OKRhvXWCAO9CrUa-naqMYnprNp1pFhp7YH8ee3MQPCoR2-Ooz4YKC-Eixb1NT1kzRFvZefpsXFT9ywDwDCixScQEj5slm1bnERdFA_S-PKNIXYSASeXSYmAcyI0T-AyX35sPRr-6SJYemdEmbGoBIaD35pmzwIp1CyO7shjNpZ8RL0g2Uic=s960" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="720" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh9KN-6OKRhvXWCAO9CrUa-naqMYnprNp1pFhp7YH8ee3MQPCoR2-Ooz4YKC-Eixb1NT1kzRFvZefpsXFT9ywDwDCixScQEj5slm1bnERdFA_S-PKNIXYSASeXSYmAcyI0T-AyX35sPRr-6SJYemdEmbGoBIaD35pmzwIp1CyO7shjNpZ8RL0g2Uic=s320" width="240" /></a></div><p>Trying to keep up with the developmental leaps of our little Ellie. Sheās running, jumping, dancing, balancing, wants to help and be involved with everything. She recently started talking in whole sentences and singing entire songs, and continues to describe and identify everything. And being her strong, sensitive, emotionally expressive self, which I love but which can be quite exhausting, as you know. Letās just say āNoā is a big part of her vocabulary right now. But man, getting hugs and snuggles from her, and catching her up in an embrace when she runs to me exclaiming, Mommy!ā canāt be beat. And sheās into imagination and so fun to play with. š„°</p><p>Working out two days a week at the gym, again. Feels great, and Ellie loves going to see the childcare provider there and playing with another kid or two. We are thinking we will start her in preschool part-time when she qualifies at two-and-a-half.</p><p>Iāve been working a few hours, a couple days a week at a Coworking/flex desk space for the past few months and loving it so much. A clear head and lack of distractions feels liberating, and itās a modern, open, well-lit space with perks like coffee and snacks. Clients and colleagues can meet with me there, and they have private/soundproof zoom rooms. I come home feeling productive and grounded, and missing Ellie, which makes for a sweet little reconnection. </p><p>We started up with our parenting group again, itās good to see everyone and share experiences and ideas, and just get understanding. Itās yet another meeting on Zoom, though, and Iām getting burnt out on that medium, for sure, Being in the spotlight, on-camera, for long periods like that is super draining for introverts. </p><p>Iām going to end there for now. Hope to post more, soon, about holidays. They were good but just sort of low-key and average, probably partly because my sister and family were out of town. Time at my Dadās on Christmas Eve was really nice, though. More exciting than Christmas was probably getting several inches of snow the day after! Ellie was sooo excited, and we went out in it a lot to explore, make snow balls, footprints, and just run around. So peaceful, too. Anyway, more later. Hang in there, everyone!</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhbkEYzIutVswgWvyl2zZBhlysR76MzoKpeQRWbaJUYje_WPEe5dFYb0R8IWxDuOt0yQKwOJicLfN39IlIOIx4_fbN6ecXbvJmrbFiz2c0r7ay9Y5hg1QRlmm0IMBG7BkB5Py6hW7INRU_yIggZ5-BKiCzhWin_KrFUICoo5AHqKDsYNi9F8H-kUHE=s4032" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhbkEYzIutVswgWvyl2zZBhlysR76MzoKpeQRWbaJUYje_WPEe5dFYb0R8IWxDuOt0yQKwOJicLfN39IlIOIx4_fbN6ecXbvJmrbFiz2c0r7ay9Y5hg1QRlmm0IMBG7BkB5Py6hW7INRU_yIggZ5-BKiCzhWin_KrFUICoo5AHqKDsYNi9F8H-kUHE=s320" width="240" /></a></div>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-61243634996212114332021-10-20T18:44:00.002-07:002021-10-20T18:45:33.461-07:00Two-years-old! Life progressions<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBD8Yrgq2rPnpYs4OVDLlN0x4dCUt6ot5B6tix2kkeO56Kv7f_JK1407gfin2ramsVhq2tz5kQhIFI7cX0k_suGxLzmO0X9HRa9isxFVDYT9RtGXVdZgxwA58LpDDrZya1VC-GDaFaHyQ/s2048/58DCED06-EE59-4C5E-9306-25C4EDAE1BD4.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBD8Yrgq2rPnpYs4OVDLlN0x4dCUt6ot5B6tix2kkeO56Kv7f_JK1407gfin2ramsVhq2tz5kQhIFI7cX0k_suGxLzmO0X9HRa9isxFVDYT9RtGXVdZgxwA58LpDDrZya1VC-GDaFaHyQ/s320/58DCED06-EE59-4C5E-9306-25C4EDAE1BD4.jpeg" width="240" /></a></div><br />We had Ellieās Daniel Tiger party with family, including two cousins who adore her, and it was lots of fun. Highlights were seeing her playing and loving the ball pit (balls in a childās pool) and doing the piƱata. <p></p><p>Other big news is that sheās started taking up a storm! Repeats everything we say and talks and sings to herself. She even asked a question! āWhy sleeping?ā about why Daddy was sleeping. Stringing a couple multiple syllable words together, using words in context, unprompted. So fun and exciting! And her little voice is the cutest thing Iāve ever heard. </p><p>Enjoying Falls arrival. Trying to enjoy the outdoors as much as possible before the Oregon rainy season hits. Our Cohousing community broke ground a few weeks ago - woo hoo! And we are on a last push (marketing and offering incentives) to find more families to take a couple of our last few units. There is only one child close to Ellieās age right now (just turned 4), but a couple other families with young kids are exploring, fingers crossed. We switched to a downstairs flat that has a little backyard. It was a little more expensive but I couldnāt imagine not having a little private yard with Ellie. There will be lots of common outdoor space, too. </p><p>Two other recent developments: we started working out again! I gained 10 pounds in the last year or two and feel uncomfortable so glad to get back to the athletic club. Ellie is going to the childcare at the club and doesnāt bat an eye walking in. No clinginess at all. Not sure how I feel about that! But I guess itās a good thing. I think she was really ready to explore and experience some new places and people. She hasnāt had childcare before now. </p><p>And one of the childcare workers there said she could babysit for us on the weekend sometimes, so RC and I might actually get some alone time on a date. We need this. I feel like our closeness comes and goes and we get frustrated and reactive with each other sometimes. We need to resolve a particular communication pattern that can come up where I want his attention/focus and he feels Iām not accepting him or want him to be something he isnāt. Argh. But overall, we are having some nice family times and working well together as parents. </p><p>Anyway, I got off on a tangent. The other thing going on is that my career counseling business is growing! My online platforms are reaching people a little more, it seems, and Iāve gotten a few recent referrals from my business networking group. Hoping this online career class platform Iām part of starts getting clients, as well. It would be fun to both run a small group and continue working individually. </p><p>I still think of having another baby sometimes but, mostly, Iāve settled into being a one-child family. Mom to my little Ellie. :)</p><p></p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-35425877779991616662021-08-15T23:43:00.004-07:002021-08-16T21:51:24.541-07:00Long overdue update<p>Dropping in to say, āhi! Iām still here!ā Canāt believe itās been so long since Iāve posted. Lots happening and shifting, including:</p><p>Full members of Cohousing community, now! Woo hoo! So excited and am getting to know other members better, both local members and those visiting from other locales who will be moving here. Breaking ground scheduled for end of this month, eek!</p><p>RCās sister visited last week, the twin sister I (and Ellie) had never met. I liked her a lot and feel like we started a friendship. She talks a lot more than RC, so thatās interesting. I got to know more details about his family and history through her, which in turn makes me feel closer to him. Ellie really liked her, too, and Iām happy to have a new Auntie in her life. Hopefully, we will keep on touch now. </p><p>I think my next post will be all about Ellie, but here are some recent developmentsā¦She is so fun, and I see why some parents say, āmy sidekick,ā because it does feel like that. Sheās my buddy and with me wherever I go, except when sheās sleeping or her dadās watching her, but most of the time. :) Sheās saying more words now! Not always predictably, but sheās saying more and more, mainly nouns/names for things. And she understands everything, and Iām so impressed with how she can follow multiple-step directions or understand future plans, etc. </p><p>She still LOVES to read and be read to, and is super active and practicing running, walking on tiptoes, dancing, climbing up and down stairs. Canāt take our eyes off her in public places now at all. Okay better end there, as itās time for bed but I will try and write more soon. Hereās a recent pic of my baby:</p><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggIKjYLwcDPwF0Y9UV_RLiG2YB9w8NLgAqYFYVDEropH8cn0pIwmH-Hx0I94xkVliP988ug8xJ1q-Wc_uXARCzlgoi8ojDmXXAQubL06KJ9QZewA69RKnneEKj38ynucY8vUpmUYUco40/s2606/E766C8F7-AEB0-4470-85A3-A6A0798C558B.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2606" data-original-width="1206" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggIKjYLwcDPwF0Y9UV_RLiG2YB9w8NLgAqYFYVDEropH8cn0pIwmH-Hx0I94xkVliP988ug8xJ1q-Wc_uXARCzlgoi8ojDmXXAQubL06KJ9QZewA69RKnneEKj38ynucY8vUpmUYUco40/s320/E766C8F7-AEB0-4470-85A3-A6A0798C558B.jpeg" width="148" /></a></p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-5724272487424984492021-04-24T11:46:00.004-07:002021-04-24T11:46:46.266-07:00Community Considerations<p> Iām coming off yet another Zoom call where I spent tons of time listening to other people and did not feel seen for the whole last half. I dearly wished that the facilitator would have facilitated and structure things a bit more. As awkward as it can be, you have to step in and stop people from talking sometimes. People lose track of time, myself included, when they are venting or sharing things they feel strongly about. For the good of the whole group, which includes the speaker, I think you have to be a little flexible, but then move things along. Unless itās a deep, wound type of share, which might get more leeway. </p><p>Anyway, argh! So frustrating. I asked a couple questions at a certain point and people jumped in and started answering. I commented on one persons share, as it grew into a conversation, but never got a chance to answer. Anyway, oh well, just had to vent about that. </p><p>The call was a social for families who are members or exploring becoming members of a cohousing community. We are exploring and taking steps to join - very exciting but also scary! The community wonāt be built for another year. You have to prequalify for a loan, which weāve done, and then come up with 20% down, which we cannot do. We are talking to folks about a payment plan and gathering resources that we can come up with. Lots of older members but now families starting to join or consider joining. Thinking of all the benefits for Ellie. </p><p>Anyway, more later, but this is big, and I do wish the call today had been more connecting. Do any of you live in a close-knit community?</p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-70851725830700205142021-04-07T16:57:00.003-07:002021-04-07T16:57:38.612-07:00Easter Trip to Bend<p>Haven't posted in quite a while...we just got back from a trip to Bend and took some good pictures, so I thought now would be a good time. :) </p><p>RC's bday was at the beginning of our trip, on the 31st. We packed and drove over that day, so it was kind of tiring. Once we got there we initially planned to go to a cool, new brewery, but it was packed and super busy, as well as being mostly outdoor, casual-type seating. Too much going on and not what we pictured! But we ended up having a nice, yummy dinner, once we found a restaurant downtown that had availability. I had a gluten-free cake made for Rich and bought and wrapped a few gifts and cards from me and Ellie. He seemed to enjoy himself, and his middle son, who he hadn't heard from in a while, called after dinner, which was nice. </p><p>To be honest, some of the trip we had some conflict and difficult conversations. I think we needed to have them though, so the feelings weren't continuing to fester under the surface. I think everyone who gets married brings there own wounds and "stories" into their marriage. A big one of mine is that I need and appreciate certain types of communication from my partner (tuning in to me, asking questions, being excited for me when I have insights or things go well). RC is not a super talkative person. He's an introvert, and he goes inside himself often. I'm an introvert, too, but I like to check-in and have meaningful conversations with my partner regularly. He doesn't seem to need that as much. When I try and ask him to tune in more or ask me questions - show interest and support in specific ways - he feels frustrated and acts defensively, like I'm not accepting him for who he is. </p><p>We both need to let go of some of our "stuff," I think, but we don't totally know how, yet. Through our conversations, however, we did breakthrough, feel closer, and recommit to working on our trust and remembering we love each other and want to be married for the rest of our lives. So that was good, but there were stress and some tears getting there.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh5OZMBWbtKgUnPJt8yLKv_qZCqGKGcBeCwNGRH6NFWaGZ6x_9qjYKt_JSKK1298mLIKmSTFRFioakEkTsUINwVsZ-Io5BFuULpt58xkJrL2gitHvNYrWqzDJDNeDmnPLbRABQcdOcD0dY/s2048/3D1524FD-6D41-445E-B641-535132EEEB30.heic" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh5OZMBWbtKgUnPJt8yLKv_qZCqGKGcBeCwNGRH6NFWaGZ6x_9qjYKt_JSKK1298mLIKmSTFRFioakEkTsUINwVsZ-Io5BFuULpt58xkJrL2gitHvNYrWqzDJDNeDmnPLbRABQcdOcD0dY/w150-h200/3D1524FD-6D41-445E-B641-535132EEEB30.heic" width="150" /></a></div>On a happier note, Easter was so so fun with Ellie. We weren't sure if she would, but she quickly picked up how to hunt for the eggs we hid for her and was so excited when she found them. She carried around the soft pink bunny basket I bought her on Et$y and placed each egg inside the basket as she found it. She loved the peeps, though RC was watchful that she didn't eat too much (I tend to be a little more laissez faire about eating treats than him), and we put her yogurt disks in some eggs, too. She was too adorable trying to take a bite of the chocolate bunny ears; she clearly loves dark chocolate like her mom and dad! I also found her a wooden 3-car train pull-toy, with a mama duck, baby ducks, and little wooden eggs sitting on it. She pulled that thing all over the house for the rest of the trip. š<p></p><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_wnSrbnHs8tns_BGX5abs4hOQzSy_4H8Z6od8218-w3GDotYjXs6QcJSk48JvI3D5-hcsdBGWaz51U9DRetANQU8ztohLphwve-7Hbz4PErSSMlb_yeTohzfPy_8Mi3vRjbS5xNbzZ9U/s2048/31D7C3FE-AB1E-4720-9A34-E36A21C6C7D0.heic" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_wnSrbnHs8tns_BGX5abs4hOQzSy_4H8Z6od8218-w3GDotYjXs6QcJSk48JvI3D5-hcsdBGWaz51U9DRetANQU8ztohLphwve-7Hbz4PErSSMlb_yeTohzfPy_8Mi3vRjbS5xNbzZ9U/w240-h320/31D7C3FE-AB1E-4720-9A34-E36A21C6C7D0.heic" width="240" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7FiLpfVrpexQ_XZd9ycbqrm-2B4sDU6P_Pg0NYdM_EVtQiSp-lcXcvTaPT089IpUpvTf8Kpk78dC0XB1IPa5KWSyJgSTUFbx9_553vDW24COb6rFIL4FDRDZP7nUo1DDC7Yh9M2joQuo/s2048/58E99113-15DF-4655-B24A-9610F409C8B9.heic" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7FiLpfVrpexQ_XZd9ycbqrm-2B4sDU6P_Pg0NYdM_EVtQiSp-lcXcvTaPT089IpUpvTf8Kpk78dC0XB1IPa5KWSyJgSTUFbx9_553vDW24COb6rFIL4FDRDZP7nUo1DDC7Yh9M2joQuo/w150-h200/58E99113-15DF-4655-B24A-9610F409C8B9.heic" width="150" /></a></div><p>Our favorite part of the trip, though, was our visit to the High De$ert Museum. We've gone almost every time we come to Bend. To me, it's a perfect blend of outdoor and indoor, cultural information and environmental/biological science displays, interactive exhibits, and real, live creatures, from turtles and reptiles, to raptors, to otters (viewing above and below water) and a porcupine. Plus, they have a cafe with sandwiches, salads, chips, and more, for when you need to sit down and refuel. Ellie was able to walk some of the time this trip and loved exploring and seeing all the interesting habitat and animals.</p><p>Now that we're back, there are some interesting developments to take my focus, including the possibility of joining a Cohousing community here in Eugene. We explored this community back before Ellie was born but were then swept up in the tornado of new parenthood and the huge life changes inherent in becoming a family. We definitely were not in a place to move forward financially, then, either. We could still be in a better place, but...we are still exploring the opportunity because: 1. The housing market in Eugene is super tight, with an extremely low inventory; 2. We both love the idea of living in Cohousing, in which you have your own private unit but share a common house (like a community center), garden, some land/resources, and eat regular meals together; 3. Especially as introverts, having a structured, intergenerational community is wonderful, as it can be hard for us to put ourselves out there and build a larger community on our own; and 4. We are bursting at the seams in our current two-bedroom townhouse, and I would like to move somewhere where we can buy and settle in long-term. I love the idea of raising Ellie with a loving extended family, too! We will see what happens.</p><p>Lastly, we are finally scheduled to receive our vaccinations! Yay! The rest of my immediate family has already managed to get them, so we are the last in our pod. It will be great to be done with them and feel a little more comfort in getting together with everyone. Hope you are all hanging in there with the Covid scene and are already, or soon will be, vaccinated. Our parenting group is finally meeting up in person, again, at a local playground at the end of this month, so the timing there is great, as well!</p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-9589251139668536592021-02-26T09:52:00.002-08:002021-02-26T09:52:30.370-08:00A conundrum to be solved<p>This is a post to help me process my thoughts and feeling around making choices about our leftover embryos...So, as I think Iāve shared, we already donated several embryos to a local infertile couple, and she is now pregnant with boy! Exciting! We donāt feel comfortable donating any more. </p><p>And. We still have several remaining, two of them very high quality. Though weāve had several helpful sessions with a therapist, I still feel attachment. I want to have closure and move on in the next three months so have come up with a couple of options on which to percolate. I would appreciate hearing your thoughts on these or any other options you can see. </p><p>Option 1: Do one more natural cycle with the two highest quality embryos. No medications other than the trigger shot. Considerably less chance of success than a fully medicated transfer, but still a decent chance. This has a 4K price tag. Do we want another baby? Not necessarily, but Iām sure we would come around to being excited and happy. I would love for Ellie to have a sibling. My worry is taking away from my focus on her. Sheās my baby, and I love her beyond comprehension. I donāt want to disrupt our special bond. We also would like to travel, and Iām thinking that would be a lot easier with just the three of us. When I think of trying and potentially being pregnant again, I do feel excited, though! And Iām pretty darn old. </p><p>Option 2: Pick up the remaining embryos and, in a conscious, sacred, and prayerful way, do a home procedure to absorb them inside me. This might sound strange, but it feels more loving and like weāre honoring them than just letting the clinic destroy them. We both feel very sad contemplating this, but it would provide loving closure. </p><p>I would appreciate any feedback or clarifying questions you might have. Will Ellie resent us for not having a sibling, when we had the ability to give her that? If we let go of the embryos, will we have regrets later? Who knew that this technology that helped us have our beloved daughter would also create such a profoundly complex and emotion-laden conundrum. </p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-33607296217619206402021-01-15T16:51:00.004-08:002021-01-17T09:49:23.596-08:0015-Months-Old<p>Christmas was nice, overall. We spent Christmas Eve at my Dad and his fiancee's house, and Christmas at my sister's, as expected. Ellie is the only little kid in the family, but my littlest niece gets pretty excited, too (she's six). Ellie was an active participant this year, walking around, sort of opening presents, and exploring, not a bump on a log, sitting in her car seat. She sure keeps us on our toes now! </p><p>We did stockings at our own house, which is a nice tradition to keep with going forward. Favorite gifts included a Bouncy Bee and a Little People Farm from family friends and Mommy and Daddy's gift of a Fisher Price Noah's Arc (I had one I loved to play with as a child, so this is nostalgic :). Bipa (my Dad) got her/us a Bob stroller; yaaaayyy!! In Oregon's wet weather, those big wheels really come in handy.</p><p>Ellie turned 15 months on January 10th! She is so much fun. She now practices walking a lot and can walk backwards, spin in circles, and crawl up and down our stairs (with mom or dad right behind her at this point!). She still loves books and āreadsā them on her own, flipping through all the pages. She brings us books to read sometimes now and we read to her at least two or three times a day, including her special bedtime books. </p><p>I recently bought her a few new books, including Llama Llama, Red Pajama. So cute! She makes sad, sympathetic sounds when little Llama is missing his Mama. She even cried once or twice when Llama was calling loudly for his Mama, so RC and I had to make our voices less dramatic and more calm at that part. Thinking that might be related to some developmental step around empathy or relating to book characters more or something?</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlhBEkhGqI16bv9_glnJTZBTtaHwFFg9P1yXEHIFfhBWQkDrOMi1e_qTb9-wbKkKjWZ5ACS3OH-jXTe6PVOPYBac4-Ly8X5Cji_2U90BHj5KbPOL9XC1c4zwg-CvYfQ-hTQhUNGkCJ2eM/s4032/C957A84E-83EB-4EF5-9E55-0E024084E203.jpeg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="271" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlhBEkhGqI16bv9_glnJTZBTtaHwFFg9P1yXEHIFfhBWQkDrOMi1e_qTb9-wbKkKjWZ5ACS3OH-jXTe6PVOPYBac4-Ly8X5Cji_2U90BHj5KbPOL9XC1c4zwg-CvYfQ-hTQhUNGkCJ2eM/w203-h271/C957A84E-83EB-4EF5-9E55-0E024084E203.jpeg" width="203" /></a></div>We took her to her 15-month doctor's appointment last Monday, and the nurse gave her four shots. Boo. She cried, of course, but recovered well. She's around the 80th percentile in head circumference and weight and in the 50th percentile in height. I think she is a strong little girl, and that affects weight, but, also, we are still breastfeeding. <p></p><p>Crazy to be breastfeeding at this point - and I would never have predicted it - but it's true. I have read that it's recommended women stop breastfeeding by 16 months because babies (I guess they are "tabies" at this point. lol) get more attached to it at that point. Do you all have any thoughts or advice? I admit I still mostly enjoy it, and it can be a nice bonding time together - not to mention an easy and efficient way to comfort her when there is an immediate need. </p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6bWqXoAHxaMIttyPHOXAlfMljaRF6QsE8z_g20n8R9ROoSjweW_6gofwznPsnpjdjq40tCkMUlQqRtuT1EvJa-d-tn137z3tjcORYE11zLNcKHomaV_WSZ3kZM92mSnQfa5Rf2mgb3EI/s2048/384178B2-B4C0-414D-9C63-411DD5D6713D.heic" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="239" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6bWqXoAHxaMIttyPHOXAlfMljaRF6QsE8z_g20n8R9ROoSjweW_6gofwznPsnpjdjq40tCkMUlQqRtuT1EvJa-d-tn137z3tjcORYE11zLNcKHomaV_WSZ3kZM92mSnQfa5Rf2mgb3EI/w179-h239/384178B2-B4C0-414D-9C63-411DD5D6713D.heic" width="179" /></a></div>On a different, bigger picture, note...crazy events going down at the Capital last week. RC and I have been glued to CNN off and on over the last nine days, and the time is slowly ticking down to the inauguration next Wednesday. From a psychological perspective, I'm fascinated by the back stories, and the sociopolitical dynamics that led up the this scary and terrible event. But on an emotional, human level, I'm horrified this happened and grateful that it wasn't worse. Several people lost their lives, though, and it seems so sad and pointless. I do hope that the silver lining is Trump will be out of the Republican Party and out of politics for good. Stay safe everyone, sending love and good wishes!<p></p><p>p.s. I'm about to enter the world of toddler sensory bins. We don't have a Flisat or sensory table, but, as of today, I have purchased a couple of bins, rainbow rice, corn starch, beans, and various tools for manipulating the materials and for hiding. I'll let you know how it goes soon.</p><p>p.p.s. I missed delurking week, but I would love to hear from anyone who is reading. It is encouraging to me. Thank you!</p><br /><p></p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-80049684022878828422020-12-13T16:34:00.004-08:002020-12-13T16:40:32.307-08:00Pre-Birthday and Christmas Musings<p>Here we are in Holiday Season again, though in, what many argue is, the year from Hell. Terrible opening, I know, but I don't really have much energy today. š</p><p>We, along with a lot of other people, chose to get our Christmas tree exceedingly early, so we've been enjoying that since just before Thanksgiving. I bought us some very cute Christmas stockings off Etsy. I'm not disappointed with the aesthetics, at all, but I can't help but compare them to the stockings we had growing up with were bigger and softer and just as cute, if not more. Oh well. I really like looking at them hanging on our mantle, reminding me that I have my OWN FAMILY now! I have wanted my own family (a husband, a child, or both) for most of my adult life and at the mid-century point, I have both a husband and darling daughter (plus two pets). Pretty amazing, really, and I'm very grateful. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEihwrFxTeJr23vF4WI7zoP3hZYz_FYv0s3_TJSBjw22FqEminWGuotyeKZs4ZwUFcHio5uxB53HthI_2RrYBPiTE0tLimb2fYiqW47AVGCX8G96he193i8LfQyVoWQ1L-tiEoqugrQuj5w/s640/IMG_2210.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEihwrFxTeJr23vF4WI7zoP3hZYz_FYv0s3_TJSBjw22FqEminWGuotyeKZs4ZwUFcHio5uxB53HthI_2RrYBPiTE0tLimb2fYiqW47AVGCX8G96he193i8LfQyVoWQ1L-tiEoqugrQuj5w/s320/IMG_2210.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><p>Honestly, though, I must admit my husband is getting on my last nerve at the moment. Sometimes, he can be judgmental and try and fix things, versus be understanding and compassionate, but he won't own that. He will respond with something like, "I'm sorry I'm not saying things the way YOU want me to say them!" Argh! So simplified and not responding to my specific comment or request. </p><p>Anyway...overall, I am very grateful. :) We went to my Aunt and Uncle's house yesterday to make Christmas cookies, and Ellie was able to spend a little time with her cousin, playing with dolls and toddling around the house exploring all the new and different decorations - and causing Mommy to run over and save a decoration or two at times, but it was pretty cute. This Aunt is my Mother's sister (my mom who passed away when I was four), and I've missed seeing her this last year. </p><p>As a side note, I know everyone has their own level of comfort with risk, and beliefs about COVID policies. I wear a mask and believe in following guidelines and policies, but, when it comes to close family, I'm of a little different mind. Maybe because I experienced the death of a parent so young or because I've experienced multiple other family deaths of people with whom I was close, but you never know when it will be the last time or the last holiday or the last year with someone. And no, I don't want to put them at risk, but you have to weigh the level of risk on each side. As for me, I want to spend potentially the last few holiday visits with my father and my Aunt, and I want them to know Ellie and for there to be memories and pictures of Ellie with them for her to look back on and treasure. That matters to me a lot and is worth the small level of increased risk versus isolating. We are washing hands, using sanitizer, cleaning surfaces, and it was a fairly small group yesterday. Others would strongly disagree, and I respect that, but to me, it is worth it.</p><p>My birthday is Wednesday, and I don't think we are going to get together with others for that, so probably get some yummy dinner in and do cake and presents as a little family. Christmas Day, those of us in my immediate local family agreed we wanted to do Christmas morning and opening stockings on our own, in our own houses, then we will likely get together at my sister's house to open presents and have dinner. These are the folks that have been periodically gathering together all along this year, so you could call us a "pod" at this point. </p><p>I have almost all my Christmas shopping done; the vast majority online, which is a little weird. We bought Ellie her first table and chair, which are Montessori design and fit together in a cute, space-saving way. I also found a Play-skool Noah's Arc, which has a nostalgic meaning to me, as I had a similar arc I loved to play with at my Grammy's when I was little. Additionally, we actually bought a princess tent with glow-in-the-dark stars for my young niece, but my brother told me she already has one so we are giving it to Ellie. The more I think about it, I believe she will love it! A couple other little things, but those are the main presents for her. I'm as excited for her to get gifts as I am to get my own, if not more!</p><p>I'll end this disjointed post by sharing a little about Ellie's current developments...she is walking and even semi-running (walking quickly?) everywhere and does this adorable thing where she puts her arms down and turns them up behind her like she's holding a cape and walks one direction, turns around, walks the other direction, turns around, etc. So cute! She has recently climbed all the way up our fairly steep stairs, so that's something we now child proof with a gate when she's out of the blocked-off living room area. She still loves exploring and reading books and delicately flips through the pages of her books on her own, sometimes talking in a certain character voice from that book. </p><p>She also babbles to herself like she's pretending or talking in character sometimes when playing with toys or animals. She says a few words (num-num for food and boobs, mama and mommy, dada and daddy, meow, neigh, bah for ball, and then she'll repeat things I say one time but usually won't repeat herself again), and it feels like she'll take off talking at any moment. We can't get enough of her dancing; she bops up and down in the most endearing way. We danced a lot when she was extra fussy/colicky as a tiny baby and her father and I met each other through a dance group, so she has dancing in her bones. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhym_l6uryj5fFmilDLEON8tAKneEw5t4aTzvYcOMSQnaWVjnaO-RzsaHKNMO-1i_6aMHNuap4T8No8_I9PN4evgUVq9FHomHfziZmcEMW9TmZBhK5bZu1b5pLwxDwyiu8-cFECzREDdKI/s2048/56127FC6-2981-4400-9BC0-60E53C09A455.heic" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhym_l6uryj5fFmilDLEON8tAKneEw5t4aTzvYcOMSQnaWVjnaO-RzsaHKNMO-1i_6aMHNuap4T8No8_I9PN4evgUVq9FHomHfziZmcEMW9TmZBhK5bZu1b5pLwxDwyiu8-cFECzREDdKI/s320/56127FC6-2981-4400-9BC0-60E53C09A455.heic" /></a></div><p>I plan to try and blog a little more. When I do write, it seems I have quite a bit to say, and I think writing is grounding for me. I am currently working with four clients, the most I've had since moving to Oregon, and that is grounding, too, actually, to exercise my professional self. </p><p>Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and/or Happy Holidays to All! Sending lots of love and hope you have some joy coming your way as this crazy year comes to an end.</p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-14924757383373803502020-11-20T13:11:00.002-08:002020-11-20T13:16:01.831-08:00Embryo donation update<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Sooo, big news! As I shared a few months ago, we made the weighty decision to donate embryos to a local infertile couple, after reading their profile, exchanging messages, and meeting with them. </div><p></p><p>Since that time, Iāve had some feelings come up around my attachment to the embryos, related to my long and complex journey to become a mother. But, bottom line, before we donated them, we thought long and hard about it and decided we wanted to give them a chance to develop and wanted Ellie to have the opportunity for an - albeit untraditional - sibling-type relationship. Nobody promised us it would always be easy. </p><p>In any case, coming back around to the big news, the local couple is 15 weeks pregnant with a boy!! And Iām (mostly) excited!! Yes, I spontaneously and inadvertently broke down crying the other evening when RC made a comment comparing how he felt about the two pregnancies. No. Comparisons. Please. But that doesnāt mean I have any regrets, and my overall feeling is excitement. </p><p>Iāve taken to calling him ālittle fella,ā as in, āI wonder how the little fellaās doing?ā etc. I feel fondness for him, and I think thatās a good thing. So, thatās my big news! Happy Thanksgiving! š¦š </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTevql1t3CQ_8yWxpxmfqBvbQzp_kvLTrvOrNZl-EwGqKcHzjhiChxwAbgrYTD8XNX989931CqkGMYNveV_Oleb3V3BjTbToXT1M9Mokf8IpBc8OHQp54erdaW48MNasRnMqm4-pIa6Bk/s2048/C0748FCB-14DE-4CA3-80DD-951A949B882B.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTevql1t3CQ_8yWxpxmfqBvbQzp_kvLTrvOrNZl-EwGqKcHzjhiChxwAbgrYTD8XNX989931CqkGMYNveV_Oleb3V3BjTbToXT1M9Mokf8IpBc8OHQp54erdaW48MNasRnMqm4-pIa6Bk/s320/C0748FCB-14DE-4CA3-80DD-951A949B882B.jpeg" /></a></div><p></p><p><br /></p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-61054679387132926342020-11-02T12:50:00.000-08:002020-11-02T12:51:05.320-08:00Microblog Monday - Political worryRC made a comment yesterday about feeling worried regarding repercussions of election results. I asked him why and he mentioned the situation in Texas where the Biden/Harris bus was surrounded by Trump supporters, as well as other clashes and demonstrations. I also think about the MI kidnapping plot and the toxic chemicals sent in the mail. There are some unbalanced people out there. I like to think that the majority of folks, while they may be unhappy about the results, would still accept them and remain civil. Are you worried? RC has to work tomorrow, so Iāll be watching the results alone and likely doing a lot of texting. š¤š¼š¤š¼š¤š¼Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-61602595434888679202020-10-22T18:09:00.002-07:002020-10-22T18:09:49.018-07:00Ellie is One!<p>I'm going to cheat again and share our FB one-year-old birthday post to update on her latest developments:</p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt;">Ellianna is 1-year-old! We had an amazing family party for her last Saturday in a private room at RR Pizza and took her on two carousel rides; meaningful for us because we all went on this carousel when R's son, J, and his family were visiting us last Christmastime, and the three of us went on a fantastical carousel in Victoria a year ago last March. Ellie has stood for long periods and even taken a step or two to traverse distances but not officially walked yet, unless you count with the new musical walker Mommy and Daddy got her. It's coming soon! She got her first haircut shortly before her birthday, sitting in a yellow taxicab barber chair and playing with a couple of combs the nice lady gave her, which she loved. She's been brushing her teeth with Mommy for a while now - 8 teeth at last count. And she loves to climb on and over both of us and any furniture in which she can get a toehold, making a dash across the bed, only to be pulled back by her legs while she laughs hysterically. Because of this, after her birthday, we decided she needed some foam climbing blocks, so she's exploring those now! She started pointing just before her birthday and clapping just after. She still loves her fruit, especially grapes, and eats a hearty meat and veggie dinner regularly now, too. Oh, she said "mama" on Daughter's Day and is making more and more complex-sounding words and sentences, and though we often know what she's saying, other people probably wouldn't. She had her 1-year doctor's appointment with shots, which were terrible and made us all upset, as usual, but we got some great news that she grew almost two inches in the last three months! Her height, weight, and head circumference are all on the same page now. She is really really strong, and we both feel she will be athletic and successful in whatever physical sport or activity she chooses. She can't get enough of figuring out straps, zippers, and how things are put together in general. So fun to watch her! It's been a busy month. We love you more than words can say, Ellie! Our little 1-year-old š</span> </p><p>Ellie's been sick the last few days, and I'm running on fumes. I also had to give the feature presentation in my BNI networking group earlier today (it went fine, in spite of my low energy). We took her to the doctor's afterwards, and he said that it could be the vaccinations, or teething, or a cold or virus (praying it's not the dreaded Coronavirus, but it doesn't seem to be), or a combination. We've been pretty insular, but, of course, RC works in a hotel, and we did have her private-room family bday party at the pizza parlor on the 10th. </p><p>Timing-wise, it seems to me to be caused by her vaccines, though the doctor said he felt molars coming in. Whoa! I knew she was getting more teeth next to her four on the bottom, but I didn't know about molars budding. Anyway, I think teething is probably contributing. Poor girl, I feel so bad for her - and I admit her whiny fussing and crying for longer periods is driving me crazy. We have been alternating Tylenol and Motrin, and that does seem to help. The doctor said to keep track of her symptoms and fever, and to check back in on Monday. If she's still running a fever regularly, then they will do a panel of tests. Please send prayers and good thoughts that she feels better.</p><p>Here are some of my favorite pictures from her birthday and, most recently, a local excursion wearing her cousins' hand-me-down pumpkin costume. I love the fall, but RC has been feeling a little down as we change seasons. For me, the holidays are something I look forward to, and I love the lights and festivities. He's not as gung ho. I guess so much of our feelings around events are related to our past history. I hope he can come to feel more positive as time goes on and we make family memories. We are going to Bend for a few days the second week of November, which should be fun, and I look forward to seeing how it will be with her likely walking. She's sooo close to tearing off across the floor but as of now, walks with her walker, along furniture and walls, and has taken just a couple steps between these things. So cute!</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgM0GDfpqfxSP0xbzzqSER7EhogZv05XH6u8PRitKCZdHXU3qhH77MVwb7LBhmWYfD6jMxeijfZC-xkzTJ4ZGfSsfKvPb5qpw6snWSBqj-v4A5XVsAuBHLvvB7HKtUCg3HbGXyexqUu6m0/s2048/IMG_5247.HEIC" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgM0GDfpqfxSP0xbzzqSER7EhogZv05XH6u8PRitKCZdHXU3qhH77MVwb7LBhmWYfD6jMxeijfZC-xkzTJ4ZGfSsfKvPb5qpw6snWSBqj-v4A5XVsAuBHLvvB7HKtUCg3HbGXyexqUu6m0/s320/IMG_5247.HEIC" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi92N_hvzMZX6GP-V0YiZlYoJgea8QuIegYQB7FabwpNZZYIS4avAk4aMaU1vly-dzaGwBJ1pA-Fgo72oTA8pPm7sD9tzCAhzPIvFyheFFe_LT1JFARkev72ijSTdoGnaeJfcrF0pMAPbk/s2048/IMG_2428.HEIC" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi92N_hvzMZX6GP-V0YiZlYoJgea8QuIegYQB7FabwpNZZYIS4avAk4aMaU1vly-dzaGwBJ1pA-Fgo72oTA8pPm7sD9tzCAhzPIvFyheFFe_LT1JFARkev72ijSTdoGnaeJfcrF0pMAPbk/s320/IMG_2428.HEIC" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMhwCQt0UVBVRMmk42ZdFXPDmkYobf0GcywVqDOZFW3pCQNgvM7_ZEJO5v23TNRm8U13-zEPtUQGQ3vB6JDYCMe6T3NMA0uifYIHDnH130bAdHNYQMYnFcvEjvDGyX2y8lhD4T8JqT-s0/s2048/3D8C0B4C-97EB-48EE-BFAA-8A28C5861EB6.heic" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMhwCQt0UVBVRMmk42ZdFXPDmkYobf0GcywVqDOZFW3pCQNgvM7_ZEJO5v23TNRm8U13-zEPtUQGQ3vB6JDYCMe6T3NMA0uifYIHDnH130bAdHNYQMYnFcvEjvDGyX2y8lhD4T8JqT-s0/s320/3D8C0B4C-97EB-48EE-BFAA-8A28C5861EB6.heic" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqM7dY2_NZXXEtsW64LRbOr8AcUrhV5C6WesnPD8PwIx2QSWCm_fNeN8kANLTSLZCZM9UpdsWhG5VDWiqvrFmPFZ6nwzuPT-LWHT7uEdNCt6HPqaCznGOMgfZ1qVdTOr_fl176RvcNH8w/s2048/39FDA329-8F6D-49B4-86E9-71520163867F.heic" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqM7dY2_NZXXEtsW64LRbOr8AcUrhV5C6WesnPD8PwIx2QSWCm_fNeN8kANLTSLZCZM9UpdsWhG5VDWiqvrFmPFZ6nwzuPT-LWHT7uEdNCt6HPqaCznGOMgfZ1qVdTOr_fl176RvcNH8w/s320/39FDA329-8F6D-49B4-86E9-71520163867F.heic" width="320" /></a></div><p><br /></p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-42949745905465234072020-10-01T07:45:00.006-07:002020-10-01T08:34:10.585-07:00Almost One!<p><span style="font-family: inherit;"> I can't believe Ellie will be one in 10 days! Eek, I'm not ready! She has been feeling more like a mix of a toddler and a baby lately, though she's still not walking/toddling, yet. Here's her 11-month FB update - sorry for my laziness, but I'll add some details...</span></p><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQq6f1oEFGUH6TW0eAjyvzPfybll86WZlGTaNnxDiuS09qVtGhoTy6-ATS59YtiNiR-2UW1i_TUOS7cydNhBcLxzI2fM5gJTcuSsyU0GjZf7062JggzXlYYZB00rwwC4GNFDQMnE49wH4/s960/119948353_10221216620698420_5953971383146426324_n.jpg" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); clear: left; float: left; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center; white-space: pre-wrap;"><img border="0" data-original-height="873" data-original-width="960" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQq6f1oEFGUH6TW0eAjyvzPfybll86WZlGTaNnxDiuS09qVtGhoTy6-ATS59YtiNiR-2UW1i_TUOS7cydNhBcLxzI2fM5gJTcuSsyU0GjZf7062JggzXlYYZB00rwwC4GNFDQMnE49wH4/s320/119948353_10221216620698420_5953971383146426324_n.jpg" width="320" /></a><span style="font-family: inherit;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">"Our little Ellie turned 11-months on the 10th, and we finally took her monthly photos.</span><span class="pq6dq46d tbxw36s4 knj5qynh kvgmc6g5 ditlmg2l oygrvhab nvdbi5me sf5mxxl7 gl3lb2sf hhz5lgdu" face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; display: inline-flex; font-size: 15px; height: 16px; margin: 0px 1px; vertical-align: middle; white-space: pre-wrap; width: 16px;"><img alt="š¤Ŗ" height="16" src="https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/t1f/2/16/1f92a.png" style="border: 0px;" width="16" /></span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;"> Only one month left of these, thank God, because, at this point, itās like wrangling a tiger to get her in place. Sheās sooo close to taking her first steps unassisted! She crawls, stands, and cruises like a champ, and continues to get into everything she possibly can. And, super fun for Mommy and Daddy, she dances! Her little up and down bop is adorable and sometimes she wiggles with lots of energy. </span><span class="pq6dq46d tbxw36s4 knj5qynh kvgmc6g5 ditlmg2l oygrvhab nvdbi5me sf5mxxl7 gl3lb2sf hhz5lgdu" face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; display: inline-flex; font-size: 15px; height: 16px; margin: 0px 1px; vertical-align: middle; white-space: pre-wrap; width: 16px;"><img alt="š" height="16" src="https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/ta1/2/16/1f60d.png" style="border: 0px;" width="16" /></span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;"> She got to play with quite a few kids this month: her niece/cousins and nephew/cousins in Austin and her cousins in Eugene. She loves watching cars race around a track! as well as her books, eating fruit/oatmeal/toast and pb/meat and veggies/bread, crawling through her tunnel, playing her drum, exploring, and going for the cat dish. One year birthday coming up! We love you so much, Ellie!!!"</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: justify;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: inherit; text-align: left;">I'll add that I am enjoying hanging out with her at breakfast so much. She loves fruit like her mommy, especially bananas and strawberries, and now grapes are a hit, as well. R doesn't eat fruit and is less enthusiastic about it because of his views on sugar. To me, if it's in fruit, with all the vitamins that fruit delivers, it's okay. Nothing like its white sugar counterpart. Anyway, she loves her applesauce pouches, too, and will suck on one of those or munch on fruit while I get something else prepared, usually peanut butter toast, bagel, waffles, and/or eggs (she like hers over easy :), then we sit together contentedly munching on our breakfast and enjoying each others company. I might check out some news on my phone. I hand her her water cup periodically, then take it back when she's done before it flies onto the floor, lol. It's a nice time of the da<span style="color: #2b00fe; font-family: inherit;">y. </span></span></div><p><span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: #2b00fe; font-family: inherit; white-space: normal;">Also fun: I always spend a couple half hour period in focused play with her on the floor, which is so different than when I'm splitting my attention trying to get little chores done or read something on my phone, etc. It feels good to just totally focus on play with her. There are usually other times, too, but I make sure to get a couple of good chunks of focused play in. </span></span></span></p><p><span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: #2b00fe; font-family: inherit; white-space: normal;">Walks are really nice now, as well, and she has faced forward in her stroller for quite a while now. She loves looking around and observing all the beautiful plants, trees, and flowers in our neighborhood, as well as the birds and occasional squirrel or butterfly. Oh, and the people. She's a huge people watcher and can be a big flirt. She loves flirting with the servers when we go out to eat, and if they want a tip, they flirt with her back (jk). They usually do and comment on how cute she is and how her gaze can be very intense; one said it was like she was looking into your soul. :) But back to walks, it's a nice time for Mommy, too, because, in addition to enjoying nature and enjoying her enjoying nature, I can get some emails out if needed or make a call, etc. She often takes her morning nap on our walk but doesn't fall asleep until near the end lately, so I end up walking back and forth on our street or the driveway through our complex, then squatting next to her in our carport and reading the news on my phone. </span></span></span></p><p><span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: #2b00fe; font-family: inherit; white-space: normal;">Speaking of phone, I guess it's not surprising that she always goes for our phones, since clearly they are a big part of our lives. I think she'll get a toddler version for her birthday, so that should be fun. We have planned a "Little Blue Truck" birthday with close family at a local pizza parlor, fingers crossed that COVID doesn't interferes, as it's threatening, too (cases have been on the rise locally). It's hard to balance the desire to give her a fun and connected family experience and also be conservatively safe. The people we've invited are observing protocols, so as of now, I feel the benefits outweigh the risks. I bought some really cool farm animal and Blue Truck balloons we will inflate with helium, a banner, fun personalized cups, theme napkins, a regular cake with a frosting toad and wooden Blue Truck cake topper, and a fun little banana-flavored smash cake with her name in rainbow letters. We have bought some presents (ahem, too many) I'm excited to give her - new toys, yay! R says I want new toys for me as much as her, and it's true! Mommy gets bored, too, lol. </span></span></span></p><p><span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: #2b00fe; font-family: inherit; white-space: normal;">R's new job has started well. He's still tired, as he had to stop using Daddy's little helper to sleep (thc/cbd), since they tested at the new job. Hopefully, he can go back soon, because Daddy is, understandably but annoyingly and sometimes abrasively, crabby with lack of sleep. Boo. </span></span></span></p><p><span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: #2b00fe; font-family: inherit; white-space: normal;">I have a few career counseling clients and continue to enjoy using that part of my brain, again. It's tough to set boundaries and get work done at home, but I can do it at night when she's asleep, if needed, and R watches her during client sessions. </span></span></span></p><p><span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: #2b00fe; font-family: inherit; white-space: normal;">That's all for now, since Little Miss is up. The season has turned, it seems, and we are heading into Fall. And elections...guess that's a topic I'll talk about another time (Debate? What?! Barf). Happy Ellie's Birthday Month!</span></span></span></p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-21153935152408638342020-08-24T08:25:00.008-07:002020-10-01T07:32:05.574-07:0010+ Months!<p> Thought Iād share her 10-month update I posted on FB...not finding much blogging time right now. When Ellieās awake, I need to be watching and retrieving her regularly! š </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj72clScMbFdupdfrJcfH4uO8LOCdf_uEvWdA38WtF99vP4mb9e6lfErcTOrag38d3qmu5pPvJEW69xKexmt-li_vhmc4Q5XiHeK5oNoRj0vUcFc-ngYvRmeyVr_R0S0TZA9Uv478M7Ywk/s2048/767F5698-7EE8-4127-88DA-FCB625D15F82.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj72clScMbFdupdfrJcfH4uO8LOCdf_uEvWdA38WtF99vP4mb9e6lfErcTOrag38d3qmu5pPvJEW69xKexmt-li_vhmc4Q5XiHeK5oNoRj0vUcFc-ngYvRmeyVr_R0S0TZA9Uv478M7Ywk/w320-h240/767F5698-7EE8-4127-88DA-FCB625D15F82.jpeg" width="320" /></a></div><p></p><p>āOur beautiful Ellie turned 10-months-old on August 10th! Less than two months until her 1st birthday! šSheās super active and loves getting into everything off limits - a little explorer who wants to experience everything and figure out how it works. </p><p>She has five teeth, and if you look closely at one of the pictures below, you can see her two cute top teefers. She likes brushing her new teeth with Mommy every morning before our walk. </p><p>Breakfast is her favorite meal, and sheās a fruit lover, as well as loving oatmeal, peanut butter toast, and waffles. But she wants to taste whatever Mom and Dad are having. </p><p>We took our first trip to Bend as a family, and other firsts included playing in her kiddie pool and taking a bath in the big bathtub. </p><p>She loved playing with her cousins this month and, when we go out, sitting up like a big girl in high chairs and facing forward in her stroller. </p><p>She waves bye bye and gives the best kisses and cuddles. We love you so much, Ellie! š„°ā</p><p><br /></p>Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-60352354718993456512020-07-28T08:54:00.002-07:002020-07-28T08:57:34.637-07:00On the MoveWell, life is become very interesting over here at our household. Ellie is now crawling, sometimes at an alarmingly rapid pace, as well as standing up and beginning to cruise edges of furniture, including her pack and play.<br />
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Itās pretty funny to wake up in the morning and see her little face poking over the edge of the pack and play right next to our bed! Sheās on the move all the time now, and there is no stopping her. It becomes kind of a game of how to keep her safe, contained, and entertained. We recently bought one of those playyards, so we can use that as another, more expansive option if we canāt constantly be on her tail.<br />
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Our decision to move forward as a three person, triangle family has definitely been a journey, but I feel clear now, as does RC. Letting the embryos go will still be very sad, but mediated by the excitement of our local recipient family moving forward with their transfer at the end of August.<br />
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I think Iāll need to devote a an entire post to this later, but Iāll just say that I strongly disagree and I am sad and frustrated with our clinics policies around their donors. There are many, many half siblings out there, and we just canāt even fathom nor deal directly with that right now. She is our unique, little daughter, who I developed and grew inside of me. It helps me to say this affirmation: I am yours, you are mine, together till the end of Time. Anyway, itās enough to have dealt with donating our embryos right now.<br />
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Having embraced our triangle family status, I am reflecting on the next ābig goalā or goals I/we want to set in my/our life/lives. Did any of you go through this after having a child? Ttc was so much of my purpose and life meaning off and on over the last decade plus and, as much as Ellie gives my life meaning and fills it with love, I still need to be working towards something. Travel, further training, thinking about a mom/daughter tattoo. Iām not sure yet.<br />
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Summer here is hot!! No AC and lots of fans, and itās hard to sleep. Other areas have it much worse, I know. What is your summer (and ongoing pandemic) focus?<br />
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Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-92073879704782664232020-06-24T11:46:00.001-07:002020-06-24T12:31:20.731-07:00Summer 2020 TransitionsIām squatting against the wall in our carport as Ellie sleeps in her stroller, trying to give her the longest nap possible! Still loving these walks in our beautifully landscaped neighborhood.<br />
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Itās been a while since I have posted...the days slip by quickly, and free time is a hot commodity. Ellie goes to bed around 8:30, so that gives us an hour and a half or so to talk and/or watch our TV show and just chill. I have two clients now (yay!), so Iāve also had some work to do prepping for career sessions or typing follow up emails, including resources weāve discussed. It feels great, though, to be using that part of my brain again.<br />
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Ellie is doing amazing! I canāt believe how big sheās gotten! And she is super active right now, never sitting still; backwards crawling, rolling, and scooting all over the floor. No leaving her unattended now. Weāve started the baby proofing of edges and outlets, but there are still precarious positions and places she can maneuver in to. Crawling seems just around the corner - yikes! Sheās not saying lots of words yet, but babbling lots of sounds and vocalizations and screeches. š She has said Dada, however, and gah and gi, nee nee, a few times bah, but weāre still waiting on Mama. Trying not to take that personally. lol<br />
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Weāre still exclusively breast feeding but are, just now, running out of the donor milk weāve used to supplant our end of day feedings. Iād love to make it exclusively to 9 months before introducing formula, and I intend to keep breast feeding until one year. š¤š¼ We feed her fruit, and sometimes cereal, in the morning, and veggies in the late afternoon or early evening. Iād like to introduce meat and some real food at nine months - weāve let her try baguette type bread, but thatās about it. When did you all introduce more complex foods, if youāve raised a little one through this time period? She does love taking drinks of our fizzy water, which is so cute. She pretty much wants to do anything weāre doing, and sheās very much a little techie, going for our phones, iPads, or remote controls whenever possible.<br />
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The biggest and most challenging transition I am going through right now (and to a lesser extent, RC) is completing the process of transferring our donor embryos to the local recipient couple weāve with whom weāve connected. Sheās going down to the clinic we used for the transfer, and this whole thing came up about us allowing the clinic to release the donor information. I want to give the recipients the information, but I wanted to be one to do it. The feelings that came up led to some helpful continued processing with the therapist RC and I are seeing to work through decisions around how we handle our remaining embryos. She validated my feelings, and reflected how loooong Iāve been on a journey to have a child and all the hoops I and we have gone through to get here. If or when I definitively close the door on having any more children, itās a huge step in my life. Regarding the clinic situation, they ended up sending all the information to me (some of it I had but two pictures I didnāt š ) and, after sitting with it for a few days, I plan to share it all with the recipients later today. That feels okay to me. I do want the best for them and absolutely wish them success.<br />
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Little one is waking up, so Iāll post this now. Sending love to everyone in this strange time.Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-5767002579672701812020-04-19T08:24:00.000-07:002020-04-19T08:37:00.150-07:00Observations and Personal Developments in the Time of Pandemic Helloooo from out here in social isolation! I have clearly not been posting much lately, but felt inspired to write at least a little something today. Baby is swinging nearby, babbling and squealing and grunting away so weāll see how far I get. I wanted to share two things today, one observational and one more personal. The first one is that Iām seeing that this pandemic is hitting different groups and individuals in our society differently. Because Iām in online communities with folks from all over the country in different walks of life - granted most of them mothers - I hear a variety of these perspectives. <br />
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Obviously, basic survival needs are forefront in how people are affected at this timeā¦ If you suddenly canāt work or can work considerably less, and you depend on that paycheck month to month, the impact can get scary very quickly. If you have children suddenly home and demanding attention and that you put on a teaching hat, that can be intense and exhausting. On the other side of the spectrum, some people are reading, doing projects, or getting outside more. Spending more time with family.<br />
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Through it all, we are bombarded with media stories about sickness and death, sometimes even hit with personal tragedy and loss, related to this pandemic. Itās scary and sad and our frontline health workers are heroes through it all. If youāre in business or refinancing to find needed cash flow, bankers and finance folks can be heroes, too. My sister in law works in banking, and she has never worked so hard or been so exhausted as in these last few weeks of administering the PPP business loan program. My brother and sister are fighting to keep the family business afloat, which includes an athletic club. Anyway, Iām seeing impacts and new realities all across the spectrum, to a lesser and greater extent.<br />
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Us, personally? We are okay at the moment. Experiencing more stress and some financial hardship for sure, but doing okay. RC has his āessentialā job at the airport. His schedule changes every day, which is a pain in the you know what, but weāre grateful he still has a job. I have some days where anxiety and exhaustion overwhelms me due to, well, lack of sleep, as well as change-related stress. So much changing and so many people to worry about! Ellie keeps me coming back to her sweet little face and all the ways sheās growing and changing - from sitting up, to eating new foods, to trying to figure out how everything works, and her love of books. I love waking up to her every dayā¤ļø and breastfeeding and baby cuddles can be very soothing and nurturing. RC and I are working well as a team, and Iām so grateful for my little tribe at this time.<br />
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I have something else going on that is serving as a meaningful distraction...seeking a recipient family for our remaining embryos. We think weāve found the perfect couple here in Eugene! We connected with them through the Mir@cles W@iting site. She is a social worker and heās a chemist, 35 and 39 respectively, and sheās been through a lot of heartbreaking unsuccessful infertility treatments, including two failed IVFs. Our emails so far have been warm, open, and hopeful, and we look forward to an in-person video call with them on Tuesday. Iāll share more as the situation develops. We really want Ellie to have a sibling relationship and, since we arenāt planning to have another child, this could give her that gift, while it gives the gift of a child to this couple. Hoping for good things.<br />
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Thatās it for now. Sending care and hope that your situation is tenable or improving. This is definitely a crazy and surreal time.Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-56411680415941760562020-03-18T14:37:00.000-07:002020-03-18T14:37:21.738-07:00SurrealThought Iād write a quick post to check in in these surreal and anxiety-provoking times. Hope you and your loved ones are safe. We are doing okay, though I do feel nervous about RC working at the airport and being in Chicago right now at a training. Really? Right now?<br />
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Iām starting to feel more like āhunkering down,ā so Iām glad he gets home tonight and doesnāt have to work tomorrow. I have a couple of career counseling clients right now, but not too much on my plate outside of caring for Ellie.<br />
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I walked to the pharmacy and grocery store yesterday, and it was eerie how few people and cars were there compared to normal. More than I expected at TJs, actually, but I guess people are still in āstocking upā mode. There was definitely tension in the air.<br />
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Then, I made the mistake of reading an article about the statistics that apparently caused Trump and others to get on the same, more extreme, shut-down page. Without extreme measures, the consequences become much more extreme. Yikes.<br />
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Anyway, personally, we are doing okay at the moment, though definitely worried about business folks and elders in the family, as well as folks trying to navigate kids being out of school. How about you?Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-8352236386695974172020-02-12T21:08:00.000-08:002020-02-13T15:37:23.206-08:00The Joys of BreastfeedingThere really is tremendous joy in breastfeeding. I couldn't imagine doing it very well before Ellie was born, but now that she's here, I'm proud and happy that I can feed her and share that physically connected time with her. I've learned that some women are not able to breastfeed, even when they really want to and try their hardest, so I don't take it for granted. Additionally, I know that formula nourishes a baby well, also.<br />
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I don't know if I've mentioned this, but Ellie can really be the most adorable goofball, and this trait can show up during breastfeeding. Early on, she would do this little routine where she would be interacting with the breast as though it was it's own entity, and she was being sort of dramatic and pushing it around - like, you're my breast and I can do what I want kind of thing. lol She will now grab my shirt and pull back and forth roughly, like a 30's gangster or something, when she's frustrated with milk flow. She will also start grunting to express her frustration, which is my favorite sound she makes (no).<br />
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When she's hungry and super pleased with her breast and how it's flowing, she coos and makes happy sounds - I love it! Having her warm little body lying against me and little sucking feeling as she feeds is very sweet. I will breastfeed while watching TV in the afternoon for an extended session, while she does "non-nutritive," as labeled by the lactation consultant, sucking.<br />
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Along the way, I've also discovered the downsides to breast feeding, which include milk supply. As an older mother, I guess this is more commonly an issue. It took a while for my supply to come in at the beginning, and we supplemented with donor milk, but then the supply came in and looked good for a while, then recently has not quite met the need again. It's super frustrating. I never thought I would sit there squeezing the life out of my boobs and not have a care for how it feels to me, just praying they produce a little more milk.<br />
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This usually happens later in the day, and the lactation consultant told us it's fine to supplement a little with formula in the evening. I'd rather not until six months, so, as we are getting down to the last couple bottles of donor milk we bought initially, I'm considering buying more. If we incorporate formula, I hope to mix it with pumped milk in the evening.<br />
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The other downside that has kicked my butt off and on is clogged milk ducts. They are the worst. A big lump develops in your breast, like a rock, and you're supposed to massage it hard. Ouch! I've managed to work them out every time with hot showers, massage, and gravity feeds, but this last one required a needle.<br />
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WTF! you say. Let me explain... A couple of "blebs," as they call these little milk blisters, had formed on my right breast, and I developed a clogged duct. For the first time, I started feeling flu-like symptoms indicative of an inflammatory process. After reading about it on Google, of course, I called the lactation consultant who determined I did not have mastitis. She told me I had to sterilize a needle and puncture the blebs so milk could get through. Yeah, that's as fun as it sounds, though a little less painful than I'd feared. After trying a couple times, it worked, thank God. Such a relief.<br />
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I will say that I think it's all worth it for me, and I'm going to try and continue for at least another several months. Ellianna turned four months on February 10th! I will write about her four-month doctor's appointment coming up this Friday, as well as our Parenting Now group, in my next post.<br />
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Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-28633001289004422772020-01-08T16:58:00.002-08:002020-01-08T17:49:19.286-08:00Happy New Year!Thank you sooo much to those of you that commented when I was feeling sad and vulnerable. I really appreciate it, and it very much helped!<br />
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I rarely have much time to post now because of Little Miss, but I wanted to share a few memorable happenings from the holidays:<br />
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RC's oldest son from Texas came to visit with his wife and four (!) kids, ages 4-years up to 12-years AND, at the last minute, his youngest son came down from Portland and stayed two nights on our floor. The family stayed in an airbnb but hung out at our quite small townhouse for a good portion of the time. That was interesting, especially considering the 4-year-old is very energetic! But we loved seeing his sons and grandkids (my grandkids, too? eek!) meet and interact with Ellie. I am so happy these relatives are in her/our lives. I feel she is a little more secure in life with more folks who love her. :)<br />
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We went to my Dad's and fiance's house for Christmas eve and had a delicious prime rib and crab dinner. I breastfed her at the table again and am getting comfortable with doing that whenever needed - with family, at restaurants, in the car. lol<br />
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Christmas morning, after an impromptu visit from RC's family (we had plans to spend time with them in the afternoon), we went to my sister's house. I was so proud of Ellie and how she was able to hang out in her car seat for a good amount of time. I fed her once (my family takes a long time to open gifts!) and was still able to participate and watch my nieces and nephew and the rest of the family open their gifts, which I'd been a little worried about. It was a great morning, and my family liked their gifts and gave some special gifts to Ellie, too, which was fun. Christmas afternoon and evening we spent with RC's family and made a delicious standing rib roast for dinner.<br />
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I will say it was challenging to be in the role of both hosting out-of-town guests and participating in local family gatherings. It would have been great to combine both, but we couldnāt host that huge group here, and it would have been a big stretch for my sister to do it, also. In any case, she didnāt offer, and I didnāt think I should ask. I did feel it out indirectly, and it was clear that would be a no go. So we tried to both spend as much time with his family as possible AND participate in local family activities, which was hectic at times. We did it though, and overall, Elliannaās first Christmas was wonderful.<br />
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New Yearās was nothing special in and of itself, but we are doing some reflecting and goal setting that I think will be meaningful. I, and I think RC, are doing the 101 goals in 1001 days that <a href="https://risakerslakewrites.com/2020/01/101-things-in-1001-days/" target="_blank">Risa posted about recently on her blog</a>. One goal is to find a fairly close part time job in Eugene, hopefully within the next few months. On reflection, working from home with the baby is just totally unrealistic for me, unless we were able to afford in-home care. In the meanwhile, and likely concurrently, I will continue to attend my business networking group and be open to new career counseling clients.<br />
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On New Year's Eve, we reflected back to when we became engaged last year. Then, we spent New Year's Day at a beautiful light house and beach location on the Oregon coast and have some wonderful memories. I canāt believe so much has happened in a year!<br />
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Lastly, Iāll share that embryo donation has been at the forefront of my mind lately. I have struggled with wanting to try again with our remaining embryos, but we donāt feel itās realistic for us right now, unless something changed. So, we are now considering embryo donation, as well. Itās interesting to look at profiles now from a totally different angle, after looking at various profiles from an infertility lens.<br />
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Iāll leave you with a couple pictures of Ellie and family taken over the holidays. Happy New Year!<br />
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<br />Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906927928773766239.post-953217517655552172019-11-24T04:25:00.002-08:002019-11-24T07:44:18.416-08:00SadI guess since my blog is about being real and living an authentic life, Iāll share that I feel really sad that no one commented on Ellieās birth story post. Itās weird, I almost feel like itās a rejection or lack of caring about her, which intellectually I know is not true, but itās interesting watching the feelings that come up. Iām not sure what else to say on this right now but will continue to reflect. Needless to say, if you feel moved to make any comment on her birth story, I would feel happy and grateful.Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711556288937525361noreply@blogger.com13