We started the day with a long conversation about his ex-wife, who is coming for two weeks in January for work. Before we were together, he promised to help her with an audio aspect of her accent book, creating a recording of an American accent. I guess.
Then we spent the afternoon at his ex-girlfriend's birthday party - the relationship he had prior to me. We emerged from both these experiences in a remarkably positive place, though this morning's conversation was especially difficult.
I agreed to "let" him work with her, with the agreement that he will tell her this will be his final project assisting her. Apparently, helping her in this way was a big part of their relationship, and he wanted to honor this final commitment (in part, out of guilt for abruptly closing the door on romantic possibilities with her in order to commit to me, which I talked about in a post back in June).
For a while in our process around this, I felt like he was choosing his friendship/loyalty to her over his relationship with me. I wanted him to let go of his attachment to doing it so that we could openly discuss our feelings and needs before making a decision. In the end, it does seem like this train has travelled too far down the track, and I agreed to go along with it. But only after he had shared in a vulnerable way how he had developed this pattern of making solo decisions and talked about how he knew he needed and wanted to change this pattern for the benefit of our relationship going forward.
Anyway, after we worked our way through that maze, we went to Farmer's Market then jaunted off to his other ex's house for a lovely party. It was surprisingly meaningful and enjoyable. A lot of the folks there were from the local Non-Violent Communication community, and I knew a few of them and liked all the rest.
We participated in a "Giving Circle," in which each of us shared needs with the group, as well as things we wanted to offer to others. I came away with a Life/Career Coaching Session, massage, and a Sand Tray Therapy Session. Cool, no? In return, I'm giving a Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment, an empathy session, and help with organizing a studio apartment.
After the party, we raced over to the Art in Nature festival, which was potentially awesome but in the throes of wrapping up. There, we ran into the guy who caused strife between sh/cm and I a while back when he got the hots for me at my friend K's party and proceeded to talk about these feelings in his men's group, of which sh/cm was a member. Random.
An overall kickin' day considering we spent much of it bouncing between exes and ghosts from the past. For dinner, I made delicious Eggplant Almond Enchiladas from the Moosewood Cookbook using tomatoes and eggplants from our garden. Yummy.
For those of you on the ttc track, I still haven't gotten a positive on the OPK, here now on Cycle Day 12.
And I wanted to ask: have any of you taken Femara? If so, did it raise your basal body temperature, if you temp? My temperature today was 97.7 and yesterday 97.9, several tenths above what it normally is at this time. I'm thinking it has to be the Femara. . .
Then we spent the afternoon at his ex-girlfriend's birthday party - the relationship he had prior to me. We emerged from both these experiences in a remarkably positive place, though this morning's conversation was especially difficult.
I agreed to "let" him work with her, with the agreement that he will tell her this will be his final project assisting her. Apparently, helping her in this way was a big part of their relationship, and he wanted to honor this final commitment (in part, out of guilt for abruptly closing the door on romantic possibilities with her in order to commit to me, which I talked about in a post back in June).
For a while in our process around this, I felt like he was choosing his friendship/loyalty to her over his relationship with me. I wanted him to let go of his attachment to doing it so that we could openly discuss our feelings and needs before making a decision. In the end, it does seem like this train has travelled too far down the track, and I agreed to go along with it. But only after he had shared in a vulnerable way how he had developed this pattern of making solo decisions and talked about how he knew he needed and wanted to change this pattern for the benefit of our relationship going forward.
Anyway, after we worked our way through that maze, we went to Farmer's Market then jaunted off to his other ex's house for a lovely party. It was surprisingly meaningful and enjoyable. A lot of the folks there were from the local Non-Violent Communication community, and I knew a few of them and liked all the rest.
We participated in a "Giving Circle," in which each of us shared needs with the group, as well as things we wanted to offer to others. I came away with a Life/Career Coaching Session, massage, and a Sand Tray Therapy Session. Cool, no? In return, I'm giving a Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment, an empathy session, and help with organizing a studio apartment.
After the party, we raced over to the Art in Nature festival, which was potentially awesome but in the throes of wrapping up. There, we ran into the guy who caused strife between sh/cm and I a while back when he got the hots for me at my friend K's party and proceeded to talk about these feelings in his men's group, of which sh/cm was a member. Random.
An overall kickin' day considering we spent much of it bouncing between exes and ghosts from the past. For dinner, I made delicious Eggplant Almond Enchiladas from the Moosewood Cookbook using tomatoes and eggplants from our garden. Yummy.
For those of you on the ttc track, I still haven't gotten a positive on the OPK, here now on Cycle Day 12.
And I wanted to ask: have any of you taken Femara? If so, did it raise your basal body temperature, if you temp? My temperature today was 97.7 and yesterday 97.9, several tenths above what it normally is at this time. I'm thinking it has to be the Femara. . .
