I managed to grade all my Final exams and enter final grades just before the deadline last Tuesday night. I just couldn't motivate to work on them when I was in Oregon. My family visit over Memorial Weekend was fun. The highlights include:
- Time Friday with my Aunt and Cousin - even though my Aunt's a bit crazy, I love her and am glad to maintain connection with my birth Mom's family.
- Friday night pizza with siblings and their partners/kids and taking J and E on the carousel.
- Saturday pool hang out time with sister's family. Throwing the rings in the pool for E - so cute! And J finally venturing in, after she wandered around worrying about it for most of the time, (but also seeming to have fun). I think J might have a higher-than-average anxiety level, which I can relate to!
- Saturday dinner with Mom and Dad. The restaurant dinner wasn't great, but it was good to have my parents to myself and catch up with things. We talked a little about my Mom's upcoming surgery, and I advised them to have someone stay with her all that day, versus dropping her off, based on my own surgery experience (general anesthesia and pain meds are no joke); more on her surgery below.
- Sunday breakfast at our favorite brunch place: Jo Fowler's House of Pancakes. If you're ever in Eugene, check it out. Had my normal Swedish pancakes with lingonberry butter - yum! More time with Mom and Dad. As a sidenote, I felt closer to my Mom this trip than I've felt before. I guess someone getting sick has a way of breaking down defenses on both sides. It's not that she was all that different, but whether it was from me or her or both, I felt more love between us.
- Sunday afternoon I spent at my sister's with J and E. One of the BIGGEST highlights for sure! I did art with Jayne, threw a nerf baseball for E, and had SO much fun jumping around, chasing each other and playing games on the trampoline they have in their backyard. I haven't laughed that much in a long time! At one point we collapsed in a puppy pile and looked up at the clouds; a moment I'll treasure.
- Then came the wild-and-crazy family barbeque on Sunday night at my brother's house with all my immediate family and their families, as well as my cousin, Jen, who moved to Oregon from Nebraska last year. There is often one night of drinking when the family all gets together and this was it. It started out mellow with the kids playing outside. V, my youngest 1-year-old niece, loves playing with her older cousins, J and E. E is very loving and protective towards her, and I love that he gets to experience a "big brother" relationship and she a "little sister" relationship, which neither of them would experience otherwise. The adults played with the kids and sipped wine or beer. After V went to bed, we ate the delicious food that had been collaboratively prepared - steaks, prawn salad, mushroom rice pilaf, and fabulous berry cobbler for dessert. A secret about my Dad - he smokes when he drinks and sometimes when he's not drinking. He tries to compartmentalize it. Anyway, I was bad and joined him a couple of times during the night. Whoops. Unhealthy father/daughter bonding time. Oh well. My brother and I had a nice talk at the end of the night after everyone had left. Fun night overall.
- Then Monday morning, I chilled at my parent's house (stayed at my bro's house the first two nights and their house the last two) and took Zoey on an out-of-control walk. Poor Zoey. I think she liked meeting everyone and had fun playing at times but moving locations and SO many new people was a lot to digest for an already-highly-excited dog. Then, we met others briefly for a lunch - it's clear from this post that my family tends to gather around meals! - and Zoey and I hit the road.
I didn't realize how much happened, until writing it all out in this post. So, my Mom's surgery was this last Wednesday and the doctor said it went very well, and he thought he got it all. We are waiting to hear back on the pathology report, which should be coming soon. Please say a prayer for her, if you can.
Guess that's about all I have to share. I sent an email out to my circles about what I was looking for in a new place and have since heard about several possibilities, and many people wrote sending their support and good wishes, but nothing solid yet. I would like to be moving in with my new boyfriend... do you think that might happen in two months? jk I do hope to find a shared situation with a person or people who are kind and conscious and easy to get along with. Fingers crossed!
Hope you all are having some fun times in the sun. :-)
p.s. Thank you to those of you who left supportive comments on my last post - it meant a lot and helped lift my mood. I wanted to give a quick update on that situation: After all that, and after I had reviewed her report and made my own comments, she suggested we bag the whole thing and start again in the Fall, bringing in an additional reviewer for balance. Maybe she recognized she didn't really know my abilities and couldn't give a fair evaluation based on one half-hour observation. Even though I'll have to go through the process again, I'm relieved and glad to have another opportunity. And the other reviewer will likely be a woman I know to be kind and who initially worked as a CTE Counselor, like me.