The countdown has started and I'm behind the ball!
First some wedding news (related because I need to be packed and moving when they come back from the 3-week honeymoon!): Theatre friends and I went to my housemate, K's, wedding last night, and it was meaningful and poignant. I think it was especially poignant to me because I have known K for several years, and his long-held dreams are finally coming true.
As I might have mentioned, his first marriage broke up because he became crystal clear he wanted children and she became crystal clear she did not. It ended shortly before I first met him online and went on a couple of dates. Obviously it didn't lead anywhere, but we became friends and I became his housemate when I moved to this area over three years ago. And during these last three years, he has been a dating fiend, uber-focused on finding a wife and the mother of his children.
He's now 50-years-old and has found a wonderful partner in T, who I really like. They have an ease and stability in their relationship that is confidence-inspiring for their future. And she's 35 and really wants to have kids! Watching the ceremony last night, he was clearly so happy and ready to make the leap into this commitment. Watching him tear up at times during the ceremony and hearing the emotion in his voice as he said his vows and exchanged rings was just very moving.
It was nice being there with other close friends from our Tuesday group. The food was great and they had an excellent and most entertaining DJ, who got the dancing going, as well. I finally was able to meet two of his brothers and their kids, including his darling god-daughter, after seeing many Christmas card photos of them over the years.
So all that was wonderful... and now, reality is hitting about the huge changes coming down the pike in my own life. I have two possible places I'm looking at to move at this point. The first one is in Albany (a great location) with an older woman who rents two rooms in her house. The house has a backyard and is located not far from friends of mine, which is great. She said the other woman works and is out a lot, but that she does not work (but goes out often). She wants to have a sense of community in the house, but of course that means different things to different people. She seems very nice, if a bit reserved, on the phone. I'll likely go see the place on Tuesday.
The second option is in a good location in Berkel@y, in a duplex that sounds really awesome and has an enclosed backyard. She initially described it as an "urban treehouse," with three floors, one bedroom on each floor. The living room and kitchen is on the first floor, along with the room that I would live in, at least initially. The only bathroom is on the second floor. From what she says, she and the other woman living there have been very low impact on the house, as both of them work full-time and are out doing other things, as well. They don't watch TV, so maybe this could be what I need to reduce my watching time, keeping it to later in the evening in my room.
So, here comes the kicker - not sure if it's completely positive though it could be - she is pregnant, as an SMC! I had no idea until a couple days ago, assuming from her ad that she was part of a couple. She's a friend of a friend and seems really cool, if a little tense. She is due in October, I think, at which time her current roommate will be moving to the front part of the duplex and her parents will be coming to stay for a few weeks to help with the baby. Things could get chaotic for a while, especially considering her mom is afraid of dogs. But it could be really nice to have a baby in my life and live in a house with an SMC. Eventually, after her parents leave, I could likely have the middle-level room, which is larger and has a nicer view. I am either going to see the place today or later in the week.
So what to do you guys think of the options, so far? I should have more to report soon. Meanwhile, I better start packing! At least I was finally able to get to U-h@ul and pick up a bunch of boxes and packing materials. I plan to throw out or give away a bunch of clothes and other stuff in the process.