Sorry to leave several questions hanging and not post for a while... it's been a bit of a bumpy ride.
The place with the woman I mentioned who was open to living with a child ended up going to another candidate. She was open, but it wasn't her first choice to share a fairly small home with a child and all the necessary equipment.
For the last couple weeks I've been living with the friend I mentioned in the last post; the one I've dated. I knew it would be challenging navigating the feelings of attraction I still have for him, and sure enough, it has been. The first week, we ended up making out a couple times (intense! intimate! fun!), which made me feel "mushy" and more attached; not so with him. At the end of the day, I can be sad and frustrated with him, but it is my job to protect myself. He does not make it easy.
I leave his place in a week and head to Tahoe to be with family and spread my mother's ashes. When I come back, I will live in the house-sitting situation... yup, the flea-ridden one, but I guess I can't be picky if I don't want to pay a large sum. She said she will have cleaners come before I get there (I did mention being concerned about the fleas), so fingers crossed. A neighbor of hers will be staying in the main house, and I will be in my own studio room with a half bath in the back but sharing the kitchen and full bath, as needed. She described the neighbor as a bit "innocent" and young for his age, which I'm thinking means a bit slow? We shall see. This could lead to some awesome stories later...
I'm engaged in focused searching for a home for August. I have met two times now with my potential housemate, who is actually having her IVF transfer today, the second time an overnight slumber party visit last Friday. We ate dinner, watched a movie, and hung out the next day running some errands. I like her and feel comfortable enough to move forward. She's a bit more self-contained and less emotionally expressive than me, but that's okay. We share values, not to mention our ttc journeys. She actually asked me to give her the first PIO shot! Crazy, right? But it was easier than expected.
I'll share more soon, but wanted to give an update. Some of my life seems in suspension for now, as I just have so much energy and mental space, and not a lot of room to work. I will come back to it when I can.