After gearing up for my workshop yesterday on "Career Building as an Introvert," using information from the book, "Quiet," unfortunately no one showed up. :( Last time I did a workshop at this bookstore, I got about 9-10 people but the workshop was more general on career exploration and resumes and the bookstore was at it's old location. Now, it's downtown, bigger and nicer, but I thought that would be a plus not a minus? And I assumed they had the same mailing list as before, which they said they did when I asked.
I don't think it was promoted well - I saw the poster on the outside and it was handwritten and not very clear. There was a typed one inside but for some reason there were no pictures, when all the other promotional speaker posters had nice pictures. Maybe that's something I'm supposed to do myself, but I don't think so because the guy who made the posters said something about the owner saying not to put a picture on it because she wanted the title bigger or something (?). Anyway, it was very blase looking compared to the others.
But one of my main questions is does the word "Introvert" speak to people? Will you give me feedback on that for yourselves? In my workshop context, it's taken from the MBTI personality assessment definition of introvert, and that's what the book is referring to, as well. Introversion and the needs of introverts can be undervalued and sometimes we need to advocate for and take care of ourselves around work. Also, needing to choose careers that don't completely wipe us out and to network, if we are job searching, in a way that works for us - focusing on finding like-minded people or quality connections versus a fist full of business cards. So that's a taste of what I was going to talk about and since something like 35-40% of all people are introverts, I know there are plenty of people who could benefit. But I need to find the language that speaks to their problems and concerns. Is it exhaustion and overwhelm? Do I need to say, "people who are more reflective and deep thinking/analytical and need time alone to recharge" or "more low-key, reflective, quiet types" instead of introvert? I would love to work with this niche, so any thoughts and feedback welcome.
A couple good things did come out of the experience. One woman came to the bookstore who didn't know about the workshop so had other plans, but she said she definitely was interested. We had a nice conversation, and she took my card and said she would like to talk about individual career counseling. I hope she follows up! Also, just connecting to the space and the staff at the bookstore was good. I have another workshop coming up on the 27th that will be more general career exploration, "do what you love" kind of focus, so it was good to talk about promoting that and realizing I need to get them some copy about it, as well. I mentioned needing a way for them to sign up for it online, and it sounds like that might be possible. This all feels like a big experimentation/learning process!
Yesterday was a rough day, too, because I had a conversation with C, and he basically said he is afraid of another break up and doesn't want to go through that again. He said he is clear that he's basically not going to be ready for a relationship for a while and needs time on his own - like to go away on a solo vacation and figure some things out. I asked if it was that he saw things with us that would not work in the long run, and we would end up breaking up and he said sort of - he wasn't a clear yes on that. Of course, he would be willing to hang out and likes the "cuddling" (why do guys call it this? It's basically code for fooling around), but I'm not down with that and said as much. This all came up because as we spend more time together, attachments are naturally starting to happen and it was feeling more "serious."
I think he does have commitment issues based on past stuff, but I think a piece of it is definitely what happened around me getting "triggered" or emotional and wanting to process at times. He's just not down with that. I definitely need someone who is down with that. And who shares there own feelings, too. Not in a critical or disrespectful way, but with some consciousness and taking responsibility for our own "stuff." Anyway, I'm sad. Even though I see the logic in it, I'm sad. Because I was attracted to him, and we had a lot of playful fun when we were together. And the dancing, don't get me started on the dancing. It was so incredibly awesome. But you can't build a relationship on dancing, right? So, yeah, no way around it, I'm sad and I'm going to miss him. :(