It has been an eventful week. On the employment front, I started a part-time dog-walking job for a nice lady in my neighborhood who has limited mobility. It's not a lot, but it's nice to have a little extra income. I have continued to apply for positions, as I find them. . . haven't heard back from the interview I had a couple weeks ago.
In sadder news, my beloved Grandma passed away last Tuesday. I mentioned her in a previous post, and how R and I (and my grandpa) visited her in the nursing facility before leaving Eugene. We held hands the entire visit, and she was relatively coherent, even making a joke and laughing a few times. I am so grateful for that last time together.
One funny aspect of the visit: she kept asking where we were going to live after we were married! It was cute. I don't mind that she thought we were getting married, as she always wanted that for me and it might have made her happy.
I knew her time was limited and it had been a year or two since she had really been herself, able to carry on the level of connected conversation we had always shared. In a way, I did lose her gradually, but it still never prepares you for someone actually passing away.
I was always her "favorite" and she was always my "special person," who knew, loved, and accepted me unconditionally. We shared so many special times together, from crafts and cookies, to Christmas trees and caroling. She had unending patience for playing dolls and games with me, and later we shared innumerable deep conversations about life and love and family.
After losing my mother at age four, my grandmother really was the only mother-type figure in my life, and no one can ever take her place. She will always be in my heart and will live on in me and who I am and will become. The day she passed away, a "paradise" finch with a beautiful red head and throat visited me twice: once in the morning and again in the afternoon. I had never seen this bird in our yard before, and it may sound crazy, but I believe my grandmother was with me at these times.
Regarding R, after a few days of talking very little, we have had several good conversations. We agreed that I would be more sensitive or flexible about bringing up and talking about issues between us, and he would be more forthcoming with his big picture thoughts before making decisions.
We experienced "Sky.pe" together, which was a lot of fun (very different level of connection).
I have had periods of doubt and anxiety, wondering whether our differences are surmountable, and whether he is willing or able to build/maintain the level of emotional intimacy that I desire. And whether he values self examination and growth, maybe not to the same degree, but at least to some extent. The way he withdrew after our conflict in Washington is definitely of concern to me, though he later said that was extreme and not typical behavior.
Time will tell, I guess. I love him. He loves me. But we know that is not necessarily enough.
I am glad I don't have plans tomorrow. I want to spend some time reflecting and reading. Then dancing on Sunday. My running discipline has continued on Monday, Wednesday, Fridays, so I feel positive about that. Hope you all have a good weekend.